the capacity of people to be selfish and immature totally amazes me on a daily basis. and the sad truth is that if she's that selfish and immature ... well, you'll always be the bad guy. i'm the bitch who ruined my ex's life, according to him. there's nothing i can do about him thinking that and after i stopped being mad about it and just ceased to care he slipped out of my peripheral vision, to the relief of my mental health.

and happiness is not bad karma. just because you're happy doesn't mean it's going to come back and bite you in the ass. if anything, being happy is good karma. just sometimes we waste our time on the wrong people.

you can take or leave my completely-uninvolved-don't-know-anything observation, but it sounds like you're WAY better off without her.