Friending and Non-friending

[razorjak]

A little information on those who've put me on their friends list and wonder and/or complain about why I do not recripocate. There are a few reasons for this:

1.) I don't bother updating my friends list for ages at a time. There are people still not on my friends list who friended me over a year ago. Don't complain about being in that select group for only a few months.

2.) If I do not know who you are by your LJ handle, the chances I'm going to friend you are slim to nil. If you think you fall in that category, tell me who you are. I'm not going to sift through everyone's journal to see if I can figure out where I know you from.

3.) This isn't a popularity contest for me. I don't compete to see how many people will friend me. Not to be rude, but just because you wish to read what I post does not mean I think likewise. Just because we share a common interest in a community does not mean I wish to read about your daily life. Harsh? Sure, but I'm honest.

Yes, these reasons may make me seem like an asshole. Guess what? I am an asshole a lot of times. Deal with it.

BTW ... anyone here besides myself quite enjoy the taste of the Holiday Spice Pepsi?

Comments

[jruske.livejournal.com]

Heh.

Sometimes the culture of LJ astounds me. Like Margaret telling people she doesn't answer unknown or blocked calls. I thought maybe I should post something like that, and then I realized that if people haven't figured out how to leave a voicemail when I don't answer the phone - then little I do will help them get a clue.

The friend'ing thing is pretty scary too. So people friend and unfriend, and from my point of view it is no different than pruning some wild growths or exploring alternate paths. But people take it personally such that I've had people ask me not to unfriend them because *people would think things* ...

Errr... It never occurred to me people would review my friends list to decide if I was suitable to be read or left unread. Yet I've had people also comment "Oh you're a friend of Robert and Drew, so you must be blah blah blah."

I think LJ is it's own little bastard child in this way. Slowly but surely I'm finding that precludes me from spending as much time in LJ as I used to.

[kest]

I look at people's friends lists if I don't know who they are sometimes, and do go 'oh, you're a friend of so and so' because that tells me something about who they are (sometimes). But I can't imagine trying to do the reverse.